One of the reasons I find mindfulness practice so accessible is because of the underlying gentleness and kindness in its teachings.

In the 'loving-kindness' practice, for example, we direct our attention towards unconditionally wishing ourselves and others well. In doing so, we acknowledge our common human struggles, as well as the common wish to want these to pass.

For some people, practicing kindness towards themselves tends to be difficult, either because they find it self-centered, find themselves unworthy, or simply because it feels strange. In truth, the practice helps build a valuable inner resource that is immensely supportive in times of difficulty.

When we experience a negative sentiment towards ourselves, such as shame, failure … by telling ourselves that 'it's OK to be feeling this way' (as one would comfort a good friend), allows the unpleasant feelings to settle, change in intensity or even dissolve.

In mindfulness, we train ourselves to meet our experience just how it is .. this is often very hard, as we are automatically drawn to resist unpleasant feelings .. wanting them to quickly go away. With practice, however, we learn that the 'resisting pathway' tends to be counterproductive, and often leads to a worsening of the situation.

The self-directed loving-kindness practice involves silently repeating the following phrases:

'May I be happy'

'May I be safe'

'May I be healthy'

'May I live with ease'